A twenty-something girl's take on the world.

Too old to know better & too young to give a damn.


Conflict With the Refugee Crisis.

5805697a04b3540669b53da71160c638.jpgThis Syrian refugee mumbo jumbo has me mind blown. Why would we provide housing and jobs to 10,000 (+) refugees when we can’t even provide that for our own people?

Lets start with local numbers. Statistic show, roughly 12,000 New Jerseyans were counted as homeless last year. What about our country as a whole? Over 578,424 Americans reported homelessness last year. Let that sink in. Now, lets discuss our veteran situation – The brave men and women who put their lives on the line, day in and day out. Nearly 50,000 vets reported homeless. Yet, you all think it’s wise to welcome these syrian refugees with arms wide open? Sure, we’ll give you this, and we’ll give you that and we’ll make ridiculous promises that we can’t keep and then you’ll end up on the streets, too. Does that sound enticing?

ca5707579333ca80e120b6ff3b71701c.jpgIn wake of the most recent events in Paris, what about the thousands of Islamic extremists that are being smuggled into our countries as “refugees?” I hate to bring it there, but it’s the frightening truth. Islamic State extremists are taking advantage of developed nations’ generosity towards refugees to infiltrate our countries. The ISIS gunmen use local smugglers to blend in and travel amongst a huge tide of illegal migrants flooding Europe… What’s next? America? Are we blind and in denial  or just stupid? C’mon!

I’m not a heartless nitwit… I understand these people are fleeing their country, because they’re scared and in danger. I have the utmost sympathy for them. It’s heartbreaking. It’s terrible and horrifying and no one should have to go through it. BUT, how are we supposed to help them when we can’t even help ourselves?

With that being said, why don’t we focus on our problems before we try and fix everyone else’s? Lets fix our home front, first and foremost.

Ponder that, Obama.

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The Mondayest Tuesday ever.

Mondays suck, amiright? You know what sucks more than a Monday? A Tuesday that feels like a Monday. It’s been a while, but I’m back… In full force, nonetheless. Of course, my first post back is going to consist of me complaining about our godawful society (what else is new).


Why is our society so fixated on celebrities? Why is it that any time something remotely traumatic (self-inflicted) happens to a public figure, everyone acts sympathetic and concerned? Are we really surprised that Charlie Sheen is HIV positive? The man spent more money on prostitutes and had more careless sex than we could imagine, so what do you expect, for him to beat the odds? Let’s not even bring up the boat load of drugs this guy blows (pun intended) money on. If you act stupid, stupid things happen. I don’t know (I don’t care), maybe I’m being super sensitive towards the subject, but I don’t feel like we should praise celebrities the way everyone does. There are far more important issues in the world than Charlie Sheen and his mindless mistakes!

Snap back to reality, fools.

May the rest of your week be better than my Monday… I mean Tuesday… Whatever.


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We were meant to live for so much more.

How many times within the last week have you heard about Blake and Miranda divorcing? Ok, yes, the initial announcement threw me off my rocker and I was sad for a solid 60 seconds. Fact of the matter is, people get divorced everyday – every single day. People get divorced and then, they move on with their lives. My newsfeed is literally flooded with these damn articles… Blake cheated, Miranda cheated, divorce this, divorce that. Why are there polls being thrown around like, “Who’s side are you on? Blake or Miranda?” Who actually cares though? If you do care, you should absolutely re-think what you’re doing with your life. Seriously, get it together. Watch the news or something, because Blake and Miranda splitting up should be the least of your worries.

There’s something that really rubs me the wrong way and that’s how twisted the media is. We live in a society where people are more concerned with what “celebrities” are doing, than actual hardcore news. Step outside of your pretty little narcissistic box and open up your eyes and ears. We live in an ugly world, people. It’s a world divided by hate, a world full of self-destruction, materialistic morons, and senseless mass casualties.

We live in a world, where you can’t go watch a movie with your kids, because a worthless human being will go crazy and pull a gun on you. We live in a world, where you can’t put on a uniform to defend your country, because some ungrateful piece of crap will come to your work and gun you down. We live in a world where you can’t call a handyman for a house call, because he’ll stab you to death. We live in a world, where you can’t feel safe in your own home, because two reckless teenagers will break in and kill your family of five. We live in a world, where a police officer can’t conduct a routine traffic stop, because he’ll be fatally shot.

I can’t wrap my mind around the senseless killing. My heart is shattered. All of my thoughts and prayers go out to everyone affected by the latest tragedies.

Far-fetched and unlikely, but maybe one day, our world will find peace. In the words of John Lennon, we were meant to live for so much more.

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8 festive ideas to complete your 4th of July BBQ!

Three cheers for the red, white and blue!

Are you lacking inspiration for your Independence Day BBQ? Look no further, because thanks to Pinterest, I’m full of fun last minute ideas! Even better news – they’re all quick and super easy!

  1. Bean bag tossing with a little 4th flair. As one of the most popular lawn games across America, it’s only appropriate to incorporate this into your day! A little wood and paint will go a long way. Follow the link below to find out how they did it! http://charlesandhudson.com/stars-stripes-bean-bag-toss-boards/


  1. Red, white, and booze. The options are endless. Listed are my personal top 3 favorites! Follow the links for recipe details.


  1. Painted lawn stars. Ok, this is an awesome idea. If you think otherwise, well… you’re just no fun. This is fun, fast, and patriotic! All you need is a piece of old cardboard with a star cut out and red, white, and blue construction marking spray paint!

Fourth of July Decor Painted Lawn Stars 3

  1. Condiments galore. If you can get your hands on some old-fashioned mason jars, fill them with all of your popular BBQ toppings. These would include lettuce, tomato, onion, pickles, relish, BBQ sauce, mustard, mayo, and ketchup. This is not only cute, but also easily refillable! Put them in a milk crate or something similar to keep them together! Maybe add an extra jar for bacon, because who doesn’t love bacon?


  1. Center piece central. Candles or flowers? You can have it all! All you need are a few mason jars and a little paint! Here is my favorite!


  1. Calling all mommies! Looking for a way to keep the kids busy? Keep them occupied with this fun scavenger hunt! Follow the link below to get your free printable! http://www.moritzfineblogdesigns.com/2014/06/4th-july-scavenger-hunt-kids/#_a5y_p=1814165


  1. Ice ice baby. Looking for a fun way to keep your drinks cool? Tired of the old beat up cooler? Throw some ice in a wheel barrow for a chic rustic feel! You can have a barrow for each drink (beer, wine coolers, soda, etc.) and make signs so people know what’s what!


  1. Photo booth. Grab a prop and strike a pose! Set up a spot in the house or out in the yard, for people to take pictures. This is fun for the whole family. If you’re feeling fancy, create a hashtag and have everyone upload their photos under your chose tag!


Wishing you all a fun and safe 4th of July weekend! xo

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Put your positive pants on.


“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”

Positive mind – positive vibes – positive life.

Just a short and sweet mid-week reminder to be positive today & everyday!

P.s. No one likes a negative Nancy (buzzkill).

Radiating good vibes to all xo

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Love conquers all.

9407823d8ea63d7ff4e7235d52187a87Love is love – plain & simple.

Aside from what the Bible says, what’s so wrong about two people that love one another, sharing a life together? How is it any different from a man and a woman doing so?

What if the gay community is actually a part of God’s plan? What if he’s trying to test the Christians, to see if we all really do love one another? Just some food for thought.

Don’t spread negativity and bash what you don’t understand. Instead, radiate love and promote happiness for all.

I believe we as Christians must love the sinner, but hate the sin. Rather than bash the gay community with our Bible thumping, we should quietly pray for their forgiveness. Never judge them or condemn them, because that’s not our call. I have love for everyone.

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.” 1 Peter 4:8-9

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Eat the damn cake.

685f9d920a3c61ab4206cac421bffbfaI haven’t posted a blog in two weeks? Time flies by when you’re busy juggling everything life throws your way.

I guess you can say I’ve been lacking a bit of inspiration lately. Go figure, cake inspired me…

All afternoon, I’ve been trying to resist that left over red velvet cake in the fridge. After an intense and lengthy five minute internal battle with myself, I’ve surrendered. “Eat the damn cake”, right? I must say, it was a tasteful “loss”.

On with my point – It got me thinking, why wouldn’t I eat the cake? What’s it going to hurt if I have a sliver? Why am I even contemplating this? I realize this is a far-fetched comparison, but it relates back to overthinking and not following your heart, or in terms of my cake, not following your gut.

Why do we as humans overthink? We are without a doubt our very own worst enemies. It’s a toxic habit and does it ever lead to good? 10 out of 10 times, it exacerbates everything. Half of the time, you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there to begin with.

I hate that I’m bringing myself to this level, because literally every time I hear this term, I feel shivers throughout my whole body, but “YOLO”. Seriously, you only get this one short life. I will continually shove this spiel in all of your faces. If it doesn’t work out… oh well, there’s always next time. You can’t be afraid to open up and live a little. Don’t fear regret and don’t stress yourself out over pretty mistakes. Whatever is going to happen, is going to happen, and it’s completely out of your hands.

What that being said, live spontaneously – You’re not going to get a taste of success or a lick of satisfaction unless you take a bite of that damn cake!

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Here’s to turning 23, on the pursuit of happiness.

90730327a84131fde6979c44b3dab919If I were to paint you a pretty picture… I’m sitting in a nest of blankets (otherwise known as my bed), surrounded by the animal kingdom (my dog and two cats), listening to “I can’t feel my face” by The Weeknd, reflecting on the last 23 years of life, over a cup of joe. Are you intrigued? Yes? Good.

P.S. The only reason I’m reflecting over coffee verses wine is, because I’m all out of wine (sigh).

I turn 23 on Friday and I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel. Should I feel like I have my life together? Should I feel accomplished? Should I have a house, kids (excluding fur babies), a big girl job? Lets be real, I can relate to… none of the above.

How I actually feel, turning 23:

  • Whether you have a job or don’t, are in school or aren’t – the one big thing about being 23 is that you have more responsibility than you’ve ever had before.
  • When you’re dating someone older that is actually accomplished. Cool. I have the highest score on Fruit Ninja. Does that account for anything?
  • The time of being on your parent’s insurance is slowly dwindling away. Only two more years to get sick before I’m pretty much toast. Better schedule all those sinus infections for the next 730 days.
  • I’m confronted with a million options regarding what to do with my life, but none of them look particularly appealing.
  • This is basically my freshman year of adulthood.
  • Anxiety. Anxiety out the wazoo. Can anyone spare a xanex?
  • 2 more years until I’m 25, 2 more years until a third of my life is washed down the drain. A truly terrifying reality.
  • The gap between where society expects me to be and where I am only gets bigger.

It feels like just yesterday, I was home from Kindergarten (back when every day was a half day), sitting on the couch, eating pb&j with no crust, watching the afternoon soaps with my mom. Snapping back to reality, just yesterday, I was filling out job applications, while taking a break from looking at grad school programs.

Where does the time go? Literally in the blink of an eye, 23 years have flashed by.

cb9ffb26dd129dd099204114e3af561023 things I’ve learned in the past 23 years:

  1. Sleep is underrated – the older I get, the more sleep I need to function.
  2. Take risks – don’t look back in 20 years and think “what if”.
  3. Coffee is everything – coffee is gold, the end.
  4. Spend as much time as you can with your parents – as you grow up, you realize your parents are actually kick-ass.
  5. Pizza trumps all – eat whatever you want, but pizza surpasses anything.
  6. You’re always going to have questions, some may get answered and some may not.
  7. You’re not always going to get your way – but that’s ok.
  8. You should keep up with the news – don’t live under a rock. Be aware of the world around you.
  9. On that note, the world doesn’t revolve around you.
  10. Don’t speak on a subject you know nothing about.
  11. You’re not going to wake up one day and automatically feel like an adult.
  12. Don’t take yourself too seriously – no one is perfect.
  13. Don’t pass judgment.
  14. Don’t make the same mistake twice – if so, learn from it.
  15. Always be the bigger person.
  16. Never stop learning.
  17. Throw out that crop top – you look like a hooker.
  18. Be careful with who you trust.
  19. Good friends are hard to come by – so, if you find them, cherish them.
  20. Be selfless.
  21. Be selfish.
  22. Speak up for yourself.
  23. Have fun – you only live once.

In my opinion, the age of 23 is a pivotal turning point in every young twenty-something’s life. It’s a confusing time, wedged between childhood and adulthood, yet it’s also full of so much excitement. Long gone are the days of skipping class and making excuses. This is the real world, and although it is slightly terrifying, it’s a thrilling place to be.

Here’s to turning 23, on the pursuit of happiness.

To all of my followers that have surpassed this turbulent time, looking back, what advice would you give your twenty three year old self?


Don’t live an empty life.

There is a yes at the end of every tunnel of no.

11355617_10153948885173747_348173416_nThree posts, three days in a row… Who am I? This is rare and unheard of, but I’m rolling with it.

You know, I’ve been pretty hard on myself lately… I’m turning 23 next week and I sit here with no real job. To me, that’s a little disheartening. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t sit on my rear all day and fiddle my thumbs… I’m a full time student, I work part time as a freelancer and I do occasional promotional events, but I’m just not content. I need more, I want more.

Well, while I was feeling pretty low yesterday, the strangest thing happened to me. I was looking for some inspiration and I read a quote by Rumi… “Respond to every call that excites your spirit.” I don’t know what made me do it, but I decided to apply to a few locally based modeling and promotion companies. I figure what the hell, what’s it gonna hurt? So, I sent them a few pictures and my information. To my surprise, I heard back almost instantly from both companies.

Obviously, I realize this doesn’t make me a Victoria Secret angel (duh), but it does goes to show that you shouldn’t give up on anything you want. Pursue whatever it is that excites your soul and anything that genuinely makes you happy.

You only have this one precious, short life to live, so don’t look back in 20 years and have regrets. Don’t live an empty life. Don’t let someone tell you “no” or “you can’t” because on the contrary, you can. You can do anything you put your mind and heart into. Stick with it, be persistent, keep going. Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try, right?

I don’t know who says it, but it’s like that quote goes… “Turn your cants into cans and your dreams into plans.” The epitome of it all… Try and try again.

If I can give you any ounce of motivation, never take no for an answer.

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Bye Bye Bruce, Hello Caitlyn.

At 65, Caitlyn Jenner is the oldest newborn ever.

1745097732_4269047246001_920c1a78b86144daae7018f8ab0017c0-tmb1I’m going to make this short and sweet. This is a follow-up post to “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

I have to admit, I’m having a hard time accepting the fact that there is no more Bruce Jenner. Bruce is gone. After watching season after season of Keeping Up With The Kardashians and loving Bruce, it’s a hard concept to grasp. On that note, if you haven’t seen or heard about Caitlyn, you’re living under a rock. If you have, you may or may not agree with me when I say, Caitlyn Jenner looks beautiful and although I’m a little thrown off by all of it, I think it’s amazing. I think it’s amazing that she is free to live the life she’s always dreamt of. 11304158_10153946804708747_393272382_n

I think this is a pivotal moment for the transgender community and I think this is a huge wave of motivation to encourage other people struggling with the same fears Bruce once hid behind. Caitlyn is a huge inspiration for all. Caitlyn Jenner has inspired all of us to be courageous, kind, accepting, and authentic, today and everyday.

Work it girl! We’re all thrilled for you! Let the haters hate.

Follow this link to view her Vanity Fair debut: http://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2015/06/caitlyn-jenner-bruce-cover-annie-leibovitz

“People are going to judge you anyway, so forget everyone and be yourself.”

What do you think? Share your thoughts!